5 Ways To Be A Happy Loner

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I know what you’re thinking, nobody wants to end up alone with 10 cats.  However, being a loner has it’s positive outcomes. In society, we are taught that we are incomplete if we don’t spend our fullest time around people, whether it’d be relationships or perhaps friendships. We are nothing if we are unmarried or single. Here are 5 great reasons why being a loner is rewarding.

1.  Focus, focus, focus.  Let’s be honest, people can be a distraction in your life, especially if these people require so much of your attention.  Perhaps you’ve once had an insecure boyfriend who shamed you for not making enough time for him, though you’ve clearly had a  million things to do, while pursuing your career. Sometimes you just need alone time to get your sh** done. It’s never easy to tell someone, “Hey, I need space,” or “I just want to be away from you.”

If we spent our times worrying about other people’s feelings, instead of worrying about our goals, we would consume unnecessary energy we don’t need, instead of applying that energy to our future and our own needs. If we spent most of our time around people, for their own satisfaction, we wouldn’t have time for ourselves to be productive. Be selfish with your life, when it comes to improvement. Don’t ever feel guilty about it.

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 2. Take care of your mental and physical health. We’ve all had that feeling when our friends asked us to go out, but deep down, we really didn’t want to go. Sometimes we’d rather stay in bed all day and watch love movies, like “Sleepless in Seattle.” It’s okay to ignore that text once in a while. There’s nothing wrong with taking the time out to restore our energy. As humans, it’s a important to relieve stress, by “taking it easy” or “ignoring people.” At the end of the day, you have to ask yourself,  How do I feel?

To improve our mental and physical health, we need to sleep, take hot showers, light some candles, exercise, write, watch a movie, drink some hot tea. It’s okay to spend time alone, because if we didn’t, we’d be stressed, angry creatures, blaming the world for everything, sobbing somewhere in a corner.

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 3. Self-Confidence and Self-Realization. Being a longer makes you stronger, mentally.  You don’t mind going to the club alone, having that martini at the bar by yourself, and you don’t really care that you’ve been single for 6 years straight. It doesn’t matter, because as loners, we don’t have to seek validation from others. Being a loner gives us inner confidence to walk into a room full of people and know we are who we are. Whether if we think of ourselves positively or negatively, loners don’t allow others to define us. We become fearless, we laugh at our own jokes and stop caring what people think, and we live in a world of our own. We become our own best friends.

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 4 . As a loner, we become spontaneous. There’s nobody breathing down your shoulder, telling you how to live your life. The time we spend by ourselves, we find the need to explore and take risks, perhaps mingle with a random crowd at a concert, or maybe attend an acting class alone or attend a networking dinner with strangers. As a loner, we find ourselves in the most adventurous situations. Sometimes we end up in the most memorable moments of our lives, because we listen to our gut and follow our hearts. In life, we can actually say we took a chance.

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 5. You love yourself a little more. Of course, one would think loners love themselves, because nobody else does. False. In fact, loners have a tendency to love themselves, because they know they have to. They are truly happy by themselves, because they don’t feel the need to seek validation from others. They know they’re beautiful, because they tell themselves they are. They know their strengths and weaknesses, their flaws, and acknowledge every bit.  Loners are not one to settle for anyone, because they know their worth. They would rather be alone than be with someone who treats them less than.


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