Realistic Women VS Social Media Women

As if being a woman isn't hard enough. Social media has made it even more difficult to truly be yourself. These days no matter who you are, race, age, what you do; or where you live, we all struggle with some type of insecurity. Male and female but primarily us women. Since we were put on this earth we've had to deal with insecurities, but the past couple of years have been extremely hard and emotional for women since the sudden spark of growth in social media. At times you can find yourself scrolling down your timeline and seeing a beautiful woman and automatically saying to yourself, “She's beautiful!, I wish my butt was as big as hers.” Or “Damn, she's always traveling, I wish I had enough money to take those lavish trips.”You have to remember though that whatever stage you may be in your life may not be where they are, and that they very well be able to do those types of things and work hard for their body.

We are all DIFFERENT! Embrace who you are. This is often very very hard to do, but the majority of the time we are comparing ourselves to an illusion. Most of the celebrities don't even look how they are portrayed in their photos. Between the makeup and photoshop, of course, they look flawless. We have to be mindful that social media sites like Facebook and Instagram only show a photo, which is only a tiny portion of someone's actual life. Never ever compare yourself to another woman. You don't know what some people are doing or have done to get or reach a certain point in their life. Now, Please don't get me wrong! I'm not saying all women are hiding behind filters and captions because that's certainly not the case. A picture doesn't depict someone's life. You don't know what's on the opposite end of that camera. You can't automatically make an assumptions that a woman has all her ducks in a row and is perfect just off a few posts on facebook.

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Men are partly to blame in this as well. Due to all the overwhelming counts of “models” and tempting photos they see daily on these sites. What makes it worse are the comments and likes. They can alter your mind and mood. It causes confusion with lots of women because it's hard to differentiate wether or not men are interested in the woman, or just are liking the photo because it's a good looking photo.  That's when your better half comes into play. You have to realize that everything isn't what they seem to be and also need to learn how to separate reality from fiction. 

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Photo Credit: Aidanneal.com 

At the end of it all, we are all strong, smart, beautiful women with a lot more to offer than a photo of us showing off all our goodies. Social Media has turned us into superficial zombies craving for attention to momentarily fulfill us, to only led us to a path of self-destruction. You can't judge a book by its cover let alone a person's life through an Instagram post. People are entitled to post whatever the hell they want and that's ok. No one is gonna post them falling on hard times and being down and out because let's face it, that's not what moves us, that's not what we want to see. It's up to us as women to draw the line between the two and to remember not to compare because once you do you'll start to become a person you are not and will find out that the person you were trying to be isn't even the person you have seen on your screen. Be blessed for what you do and don't have.

Don't let the internet come between you and your true self and turn you into a “bad bitch”.  The fact of the matter is that we all go through things, no one is perfect. We all have our faults and flaws. What you may have might be something another woman lacks and may be envious of you about.  Always remember social media isn't real life. What you see isn't always what you get. No matter if we have long or short hair, small or big breast, we all possess something within us to be great. We all have other responsibilities to uphold outside of social media. One thing we can do is uplift one another and accept each other for who we are.